Posts Tagged ‘Positive attitude’

Greetings all.

This week, My cousin’s son posted pictures of cars he’d love to own when he’s older on facebook. They were all top of the range super cars! Lamborghini’s, Aston Martin’s Ferrari’s and other exotic cars. I smiled but then saw the comments on his page.

Now, this little guy is still in school and it amazed me to see some of the negative comments from his peers!
Comments like “You wish!” and “that’ll never happen”…

I could only lend him the following advice,

I told him that it was fantastic that he was aiming so high but to look around him and see how many people he knew actually owned these cars… Then I told him that the chances are, not many. The secret therefore to achieving your goals is to not listen to people that tell you that it can’t be done!

And isn’t that the case with most of the goals we have in our lives? As soon as we go out there and share our goals or work towards our goals, we face a barrage of negative criticism, sometimes even from loved ones!

You know the kind “That’ll never work!” or “What thinks you’ve got the right to do that?” or “I had an uncle who tried that once, he failed, so will you” and sometimes they’re wrapped in kindness but as equally deadly to your dreams and these ones sound like “We’re simple people, just be happy with what you have”! (Now I know the last one actually sounds like okay advice. In fact, an attitude of gratitude is vital however, it should not stop you from dreaming big!)

It reminds me of the story of the little frogs who once had a race up a high tower.

There once was bunch of tiny frogs,…

… who arranged a running competition.

The goal was to reach the top of a very high tower.

A big crowd had gathered around the tower to see the race and cheer on the contestants…

The race began…

Honestly, No one in crowd really believed that the tiny frogs would reach the top of the tower.

You heard statements such as:

“Oh, WAY too difficult!!

They will NEVER make it to the top.”

or:

“Not a chance that they will succeed. The tower is too high!”

The tiny frogs began collapsing. One by one…

… Except for those who in a fresh tempo were climbing higher and higher…

The crowd continued to yell

“It is too difficult!!! No one will make it!”

More tiny frogs got tired and gave up…

…But ONE continued higher and higher and higher…

This one wouldn’t give up!

At the end everyone else had given up climbing the tower. Except for the one tiny frog who after a big effort was the only one who reached the top!

THEN all of the other tiny frogs naturally wanted to know how this one frog managed to do it?

A contestant asked the tiny frog how the one who succeeded had found the strength to reach the goal?

It turned out…

That the winner was DEAF!!!!

The wisdom of this story is:

Never listen to other people’s tendencies to be

negative or pessimistic…

ALWAYS be…

POSITIVE!

And above all:

Be DEAF when people tell YOU that YOU can not fulfil YOUR dreams!

So, the next time you have a goal or a big dream, be like the tiny frog and keep on running towards your goal and be deaf to negative criticism!

Until next time, Keep Shining!
Fahad x

Greetings all!

The author of the world famous personal development book; “The Magic of thinking big”, David Schwartz said, “The size of your success will be determined by the size of your belief”!

Sometimes, even though we know we want to reach the next level in our success and we have the blueprint on how to achieve that success, we are let down by our lack of self belief that we can actually achieve the level of success we set out for in the first place.
Often, this is due to our negative programming, fears and past results. It has been well documented that the best way to build self belief is through positive affirmations and to remind yourself of times when you shone and achieved positive results no matter how small they may be.

I love the story shared by my Billionaire mentor, William Bartmann. in 1996, When the Chicago Bulls reigned supreme in the NBA, Bill and his wife put a bid to buy the team for some $200m. During this time, They decided to really spend some time with the team as since they were buying the assets of the club which included its players, it would make sense to know the players.

One of the stars of this team was a misfit by the name of Dennis Rodman. Dennis Rodman as a reputation surrounded by notoriety due to his appearance, covered in tattoos, piercings and changing the colour of his hair every game. His on and off the court antics caught the media attention far and wide but Bill knew the real Rodman and in Rodman’s own words, it was all about marketing himself. Dennis Rodman may have had the bad boy image but you couldn’t deny the camera followed his every move. This spearheaded his career and launched many new opportunities for him.

Dennis was famous for sitting on the bench during the pregame warmups and when he was sitting out the games with a towel on his head and headphones in his ears. He told the media, when he was asked what he listened to, that he listened to his favourite band, Pearl Jam.

What Bill found out one day when sitting next to Dennis was he wasn’t listening to Pearl Jam at all! When Rodman let Bill listen to the headphones, Bill didn’t hear music but what he heard was Dennis Rodman telling Dennis Rodman just how good he was! He would remind himself just how well he performed against the team they were playing the last time! How many points he scored, shots he blocked and rebounds he made. These affirmations fuelled Rodman’s self belief and from this simple story, we too can learn a very valuable and potent method for instilling self belief into ourselves!

Constantly remind yourself of your accomplishments! It’s a great idea, if you have certificates and trophies, to put them around the house to remind yourself of achievements!

Remind yourself of things, Clients you’ve won, Negotiations you’ve successfully made or even simple things like the first time you went out with your husband or wife or partner…

Finally, remember, we are sometimes our own worst enemies and when negative situations occur, it’s not uncommon for us to blame ourselves by telling ourselves how stupid we are etc… When you catch yourself saying that, automatically flush it out be repeatedly telling yourself one simple statement, “Every time and everyway, I get better and better! I learn from my mistakes and am thankful for the opportunity to learn, from now on I will be a faster, stronger and better version of me!”
Until next time,

Stay blessed and Keep Shining!

Fahad x