Posts Tagged ‘Affirmations’

One of the questions I’ve been asked  a lot recently is, Fahad, How do you maintain a positive attitude?

Well the truth of the matter is, it takes practice until it becomes a habit!
Developing a positive attitude therefore is not accomlished by reading one book or going to one seminar or listening to something inspiring.

It takes a conceited daily effort to reprogram your mind to be more positive.
From a young age, as soon as we are able to understand things, we’re bombarded with messages. These messages. These messages shape our beliefs and our perceptions. It’s a sad fact then that the average child here’s messages like “No”, “You can’t do that”, “Don’t be silly” etc far more than words of encouragement like “YES!” “You have got what it takes to be the best” and other positively affirming statements.

As we go to school, get exposed to media (Television is a major culprit in programming peoples minds with a negative disposition), News, and negative role models, our attitudes are firmly routed in the ideas that if it can go wrong, it probably will.

There are however, a percentage of the population (albeit a small percentage) who have a different view on the way their world works. Through positive affirmations, surrounding themselves with empowering people and empowering messages and CHOOSING to filter out any harmful, negative messages from their conscious mind before it enters their subconscious. They develop a positive attitude. Rather than looking at the glass half empty, they see it as half full (Or as I say, A glass that needs filling regardless!)

Here are some tips to help you maintain a positive attitude:

1. Take time daily for your own personal development by spending time reading a positive book, listening to a positive audio or film. I personally Read for at least 20 minutes a day from a positive book and in my car, Have a personal development CD in. I also watch High Definition Entertaining tools on the iLearning Global website

2. Practice an attitude of gratitude. When you wake up in the morning be grateful for being given another day. Take some time out thanking the universe or god (your religious of spiritual beliefs are none of my business so just be grateful to whomever you feel fit) for all the good in your life.

3. Be solution focused, not problem focused. We all have issues and obstacles to deal with on a daily basis. This is a fact of life. But it’s not what happens to us that determines our outcomes, it’s how we decide to react. Too many people dwell on the problem and wonder why things aren’t getting better. It’s when you focus on the solution when you feel empowered and make a difference to the situation.

4. Keep the end in mind. A wise man once said, Focus on where you are going to, not on what you’re going through. In other words. Always keep sight of the objective and what you want… focus on the reason why you’ve set out to achieve your goals. If your reason why is strong enough, the obstacles become nothing more then minor speed bumps on the road to your goals.

5. Practice Positive affirmations. One of the best ways to overcome limiting beliefs is the daily practice of repeating positive affirmations to yourself. Positive affirmations are statements written in the present tense that positively reinforce to yourself, anything you wish to enforce! For example. If you want a more positive attitude, you could say to yourself everyday, 3 times a day “I am a positive person, I only look for the good in all situations and I am grateful for all experiences that come into my life for I learn from them and achieve greatness as a result” -
Notice that it’s written as though it’s already happening!

6. Limit your time around negative influencers. This one sounds hard but it really isn’t. You can CHOOSE what you put into your mind so why not CHOOSE positive stuff? Whilst it might sound pretty radical to cut out all negative influencers, you only need to reduce your time watching things like soap operas, news broadcasts, gossiping and hanging around with people who complain and moan most of the time. If you’re around loved ones who love to talk trash or negative, turn the conversation around onto positive notes.

There are many resources on Positive affirmations and I shall be posting articles in the future on them.

finally, one more bonus tip (I love over delivering!) - Meditation is a great way to quiet the mind and focus!

In closing, i’ll share one of my favourite Zig Ziglar quotes with you!

“People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing - that’s why we recommend it daily.”

Until next time, Keep Shining!

Fahad x

Greetings all!

The author of the world famous personal development book; “The Magic of thinking big”, David Schwartz said, “The size of your success will be determined by the size of your belief”!

Sometimes, even though we know we want to reach the next level in our success and we have the blueprint on how to achieve that success, we are let down by our lack of self belief that we can actually achieve the level of success we set out for in the first place.
Often, this is due to our negative programming, fears and past results. It has been well documented that the best way to build self belief is through positive affirmations and to remind yourself of times when you shone and achieved positive results no matter how small they may be.

I love the story shared by my Billionaire mentor, William Bartmann. in 1996, When the Chicago Bulls reigned supreme in the NBA, Bill and his wife put a bid to buy the team for some $200m. During this time, They decided to really spend some time with the team as since they were buying the assets of the club which included its players, it would make sense to know the players.

One of the stars of this team was a misfit by the name of Dennis Rodman. Dennis Rodman as a reputation surrounded by notoriety due to his appearance, covered in tattoos, piercings and changing the colour of his hair every game. His on and off the court antics caught the media attention far and wide but Bill knew the real Rodman and in Rodman’s own words, it was all about marketing himself. Dennis Rodman may have had the bad boy image but you couldn’t deny the camera followed his every move. This spearheaded his career and launched many new opportunities for him.

Dennis was famous for sitting on the bench during the pregame warmups and when he was sitting out the games with a towel on his head and headphones in his ears. He told the media, when he was asked what he listened to, that he listened to his favourite band, Pearl Jam.

What Bill found out one day when sitting next to Dennis was he wasn’t listening to Pearl Jam at all! When Rodman let Bill listen to the headphones, Bill didn’t hear music but what he heard was Dennis Rodman telling Dennis Rodman just how good he was! He would remind himself just how well he performed against the team they were playing the last time! How many points he scored, shots he blocked and rebounds he made. These affirmations fuelled Rodman’s self belief and from this simple story, we too can learn a very valuable and potent method for instilling self belief into ourselves!

Constantly remind yourself of your accomplishments! It’s a great idea, if you have certificates and trophies, to put them around the house to remind yourself of achievements!

Remind yourself of things, Clients you’ve won, Negotiations you’ve successfully made or even simple things like the first time you went out with your husband or wife or partner…

Finally, remember, we are sometimes our own worst enemies and when negative situations occur, it’s not uncommon for us to blame ourselves by telling ourselves how stupid we are etc… When you catch yourself saying that, automatically flush it out be repeatedly telling yourself one simple statement, “Every time and everyway, I get better and better! I learn from my mistakes and am thankful for the opportunity to learn, from now on I will be a faster, stronger and better version of me!”
Until next time,

Stay blessed and Keep Shining!

Fahad x